Maintaining trust

Trust is a central pillar to a lasting and happy marriage.

Trust occurs in two ways. It is either freely given or earned over time. If trust has been damaged it can only be regained with time, consistent effort and patience.

Some of the fruits of a true commitment are a feeling a deep trust, knowing that your spouse has your back and being able to count on each other

These things help you exhale and relax inside your marriage. Things that promote intimacy and strengthen trust are covered in PreMarital Counseling. I will help you negotiate what you need to feel safe and relaxed in your marriage.

Loyalty

It is not required that you talk about the concept of loyalty during PreMarital Counseling. It is however a topic that I can explore with you if you wish. There are a few good reasons to address it. One may be that you have been cheated on in the past and want to affair proof your up coming marriage. Another may be that it's just not something that you have ever discussed with your fiancé and you might feel that the topic deserves a conversation.

The most significant reason for having a discussion about loyalty is to get clear about what each of you would define as cheating

It's good to be clear about it even if it never happens.

PreMarital Counseling is a safe, neutral and calm space and is the perfect venue for a small discussion of this topic, if you choose.

As I say, what we discuss is up to you.

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I look forward to hearing from you.

Warm regards,

Laressa Desmond PhD

CPC CA  LMFT

Laressa Desmond, PhD, LMFT