Dona Laressa Desmond, PhD, LMFT
PreMarital Counselor & Couples Therapist
Couples and Conflict Conflict Resolution
Nothing hurts like constantly stumbling over the same old conflict with your partner, when all you really want to do is be close and feel their love. It’s hard to concentrate, feel joyful or have a lightness to the day when relationship struggles drag you down.
We fall in love with people who are different enough from us to create a spark. It’s that “completion feeling” of interest and fascination with someone else who makes us better. Yet, we feel sad and confused when the spark burns instead of warming us. It’s a baffling betrayal to our emotional logic that we can deeply love someone that we frequently fight with and sometimes emotionally dread.
There are often small twists in the moment of a conflict that determine whether or not it will escalate or just be a bump. The good news is that conflict resolution is a science. It has proven methods that work. It’s learnable and it’s something that I specialize in.
If you want to shorten the problem moments and make them smoother then Couples Therapy with an emphasis on Conflict Resolution might be a good fit for you. Stop walking on eggshells or avoiding things for fear of a blow-up. Give yourself the gift of more peaceful coexistence. I look forward to hearing from you.