"27 years helping couples become their best ♥♥♥ "

PreMarital Counseling Los Angeles

Dona Laressa Desmond PhD

CPC CA LMFT

Woodland Hills CA 91364 • Culver City CA 90066 • West Los Angeles CA 90025 • Santa Monica 90404

Wants and needs, how they differ and why it matters

Needs are primal and something that you feel you really must have. Needs feel essential, necessary to your well-being and don't change much over time. They are unique to each individual and are often surprisingly subjective and subtle. You can delay your needs, sacrifice them or ignore them but they don't tend to disappear.

Wants are also deeply felt but are less tied to emotional survival. Wants are created by wishes and desires and often do change with circumstances and over time.

Learning to articulate and negotiate this aspect of marriage is helpful to maintaining intimacy and to feeling whole as individuals within the structure of marriage.

Why do we discuss this in advance of marriage?

Once the wedding is over one of next frontiers that will occupy your attention is the daily emotional negotiation in which each of you tries to get your needs and wants met without feeling hampered by your spouse or resentful that you are being asked to sacrifice too much.

This negotiation is subtle, can be non-verbal, and is often the root of many arguments. I learn a positive language for sharing your needs and private wishes with your spouse. We will also focus on ways skills for getting needs without asking your spouse to stop being who they are.

Can PreMarital Counseling help me determine my wants from my needs?

Yes it can. I'll help you explore, define, communicate and negotiate your needs and wants.  


Needs vs Wants

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Dona Laressa Desmond, PhD, LMFT

PreMarital Counselor & Couples Therapist

$30 discount video counseling sessions during COVID if needed

28 years experience