Who am I and how can I help you?
Welcome! I'm a Couples Therapist with 28 years of experience in the Los Angeles area. I specialize in helping Couples create marriages that last. My sessions have a safe & optimistic atmosphere. We'll focus our PreMarital Counseling on proven emotional & psychological skills needed to create your best marriage. On this site I'll share what PreMarital Counseling is, how it works, how many sessions, fees, deals, & what you can expect.
"..28 years experience in the Los Angeles area..."
Why consider PreMarital Counseling?
PreMarital Counseling is the closest thing that we have to a type of emotional insurance policy. A few sessions can really help you lay the foundation for a secure, emotionally cooperative, intimate marriage.
In psychology we know that, over time, certain behaviors corrode love while certain behaviors make it stronger. Love is a powerful feeling that needs to be fed by other less emotional factors, such as communication, smooth problem solving, trust, shared values and mutual goals.
In PreMarital Counseling we review the pillars of a successful marriage & secure ways to empower you for a satisfying future together. It's easier to lay a solid groundwork in advance rather than to try to fix problems later so if you feel that you or your fiancé have a particular blind spot we can also work on that. Our focus together is on positive relationship skills that will give your marriage stability & satisfaction.
How long does PreMarital Counseling take?
The average length of time for PreMarital Counseling is 6 to 8 sessions of one hour each. If cost is a factor we can also do an abbreviated version with fewer sessions.
Is PreMarital Counseling religious?
I don’t do religious counseling. The service that I offer is rooted in proven psychological techniques for marriage enhancement. My training is in communication, positive conflict resolution, emotional intelligence and the research on intimacy enhancement. I use a variety of techniques including, but limited to, CBT, EFT and the Gottman Method. My focus is on providing you with specific skills for creating a lasting, resilient marriage together. If religion is a part of your marriage and you want to discuss it we can cover that in our discussion about your shared beliefs and values as a couple.
What is the structure of PreMarital Counseling?
We do our session together in a calm, undistracted space where we decide what topics you feel you will benefit from discussing. Then I will bring years of expertise to helping you create a marriage that has good communication, mutual affection and smooth problem solving.
Who sets the agenda during PreMarital Counseling?
You do. I will review options with you but we will discuss only the areas that you want to discuss.
What is the benefit of PreMarital Counseling?
Resilience and knowing your partner in a deeper way than ever before. Setting a positive trajectory for your marriage from the start. Solid skills and practical knowledge on how to create a stable, securely attached, low conflict, marriage and family life.
Career goals after marriage
Handling your differences
Time to one's self
Creating a unique marriage
Avoiding parents mistakes
Keeping problems small
Crisis response in relationship
Building a positive atmosphere
Communication about needs
What type of things are covered in PreMarital Counseling?
Coping with change
Sex & intimacy
Disagreeing without damage
Extended family interactions
Location of home
Chores and housekeeping
Dona Laressa Desmond, PhD, LMFT
PreMarital Counselor & Couples Therapist
$30 discount on video counseling sessions