How do you talk to each other?
Good communication is one of the skills that most impacts marriage. It gives you a firm base for solving problems together, enhances intimacy and makes it easier to handle life as a Couple.
Do you have problems seeing eye to eye sometimes? Do minor conversations end up in unnecessary arguments? Do you disagree about your perceptions then you argue over who is right? I can help you learn to avoid conflicts and have smoother communication. This is an area of expertise for me and one we will cover together in our PreMarital Counseling sessions.
Why emphasize communication in PreMarital Counseling?
Marriages are inspired by love but often wounded by poor communication. It's helpful to check your level of effectiveness in this area before the wedding. I'll help you secure positive communication skills that you can build on once you're married.
What types of communication issues will be covered in PreMarital Counseling?
Staying calm while discussing difficult topics
Solving problems together smoothly
Getting on the same page about big decisions
Getting what you need without being demanding
How to let things go
Leaving the past in the past
Talk without attacking and blaming
Communicate without making things worse
Listen so that your spouse feels understood
Breaking bad communication patterns
Finding new ways to relate
Voice tone, timing and avoiding emotional escalations
Keeping respect, love, and tenderness in your communication together
More about communication
Relationships are very resilient. Ultimately in marriage things move in cycles. Sometimes you feel more love, sometimes you have more sex, but the one constant is communication. It's something you will do every day so it's wise to lock in positive communication skills before the wedding. In PreMarital Counseling we will cover the healthiest ways to do this.
Dona Laressa Desmond, PhD, LMFT
Expert Couples Counseling & Life Coach